YES, I have hearing difficulty. No I am NOT ashamed to admit it.
- Last Updated: May 30th, 2018
- Posted by: Ranveer
My story is a little different from those I’ve read on this site. Hearing difficulty was never something I had even dreamed of having. I never had the slightest idea that it was all in the family. Yes, my father had hearing loss and I was unaware of it all my childhood. It was hidden so well by my family. His hearing aids were always hidden his behind sideburns (which he grew long for this purpose only). I don’t remember him mentioning his hearing difficulty, ever or asking for a quieter spot in a restaurant. When he preferred sitting all by himself in social or grand family gatherings I always assumed he was shy. But now I know, it was all related to his hearing loss.
I remember my mother and sister giggling behind his back over the fact that my father wouldn’t understand some words at once. I am extremely guilty that even I would join them at times, but then again my excuse here is that I was a child and was unaware of his condition. My home environment was sort of foul for letting me behave that way.
As I grew up I started realizing and understanding that hearing difficulty was a forbidden phenomenon at our home. We weren’t allowed to talk or discuss it. I took this way too seriously.
Yes, when I first found out I was having hearing loss in my early 20’s I hid it. I hid it from my friends, my family and everyone close to me. Really I was worried that people around me would look me with pitiful eyes. when I was afraid to wear hearing aids but then again it got into me that wearing them is a NEED I cannot ignore. I started ignoring party invitations, considered sitting at home all my myself. Just didn’t want anyone to see I was wearing hearing aids.
But once I got married and had children it all changed.
They caught me hiding my aids several times. It is them that I realized that I should not make the same mistake my family did. I better make my kids understand about hearing loss since it is genetic. There is definitely a possibility that it would get passed onto them. It took me a while, but eventually I did address the elephant in the room (something everyone was avoiding to talk about).
I am now a writer and speaker at a law college and have been openly talking about my condition. And inspiring the young generation as much as I can.
I want to show my kids that not ashamed, now regularly make sure that at restaurants I get a quieter place. My friends and family have also started my decision of advocating this issue on a larger level. Life is happy and I am grateful for who I am and what I have achieved so far. I really hope that my story encourages others to accept their hearing loss, treat it. And continue with their vibrant and entertaining lives.