YES, I have hearing difficulty and I am not ashamed to admit it.
- Last Updated: Dec 15th, 2018
- Posted by: Ranveer
My story is a different one from those I’ve read on this site. Hearing loss was never something I had even dreamed of having. I never had the slightest idea that it existed in our family. Yes, my father had hearing loss and I was unaware of it since childhood. As my family hid this serious problem so well. His hearing aids were always hidden by his behind sideburns (which he grew long for this purpose only). I don’t remember him mentioning his hearing difficulty, ever or asking for a quieter spot in a restaurant. When he preferred sitting all by himself in social or grand family gatherings I always assumed he was shy. But now I know, it was all related to his hearing loss.
I remember my mother and sister giggling behind his back over the fact that my father wouldn’t understand some words at once. I am extremely guilty that even I would join them at times, but then again my excuse here is that I was a child and was unaware of his condition. My home environment was sort of foul for letting me behave that way.
As I grew up I started realizing and understanding that hearing difficulty was a forbidden phenomenon at our home. We weren’t allowed to talk or discuss it. I took this way too seriously.
Yes, when I first found out I was having hearing loss in my early 20’s, I hid it. I hid it from my friends, my family and everyone close to me. Really I was worried that people around me would look me with pitiful eyes when I was afraid to wear hearing aids but then again it got into me that wearing them is a need that I cannot ignore. I started ignoring party invitations, consider sitting at home all by myself. Just didn’t want anyone to see that I was wearing hearing aids.
But once I got married and had children it all changed.
They caught me hiding my aids several times. It is then that I realized that I should not make the same mistake as my family did. I better make my kids understand aware about hearing loss since it is genetic. There is definitely a possibility that it would also passed onto them. It took me a while, but eventually, I did address the elephant in the room (something everyone was avoiding to talk about).
I am now a writer and speaker at a law college and have been openly talking about my condition. And inspiring the young generation as much as I can.
I want to show my kids to not be ashamed of hearing loss and hearing aids. Now I regularly make sure that at restaurants I get a quieter place. My friends and family have also appreciated my decision of advocating this issue on a larger level. Life is happy and I am grateful for who I am and what I have achieved so far. I really hope that my story encourages others to accept their hearing loss, treat it. And continue with their vibrant and entertaining lives with hearing aids.